Changes are part of life. We deal with changes more quickly when it is positive. Sometimes we don’t realize that things have changed in a positive sense. It is different when it comes to detrimental changes that we have not chosen ourselves. We often feel resistance to these new situations. We have more trouble with it. It can cause you to fear but also anger.
We tend to push change, especially the ones we didn’t choose ourselves. We want to keep everything old and familiar.
We consider our comfort zone as the only safe zone. This applies both at work and in your private life.
Unfortunately, these negative situations are also part of life.
Everyone sometimes has to deal with situations where you have no influence on which threatens your comfort zone.
You can think of losing someone you care about, losing your job, but also significant changes at work, for example.
Your function changes, so you experience a lot of stress. In short, all things that feel negative and that you have not chosen yourself.
You probably recognize it. You get angry, and you feel powerless, you don’t know what to do with a situation that causes you a lot of stress but also fears.
Do you keep worrying and don’t know how to proceed?
How do you deal with changes?
You lose the balance in your life; you want to regain balance in your life.
If you recognize yourself in the above, I advise you to continue reading.
I will give you tips on how to deal with the resistance to these situations and the fear of change.
You learn how to regain control. No matter how big or small the difference is.
Stop complaining and name-calling
Resistance to changes that you do not control can not get you further.
You’ve probably noticed that complaining, name-calling, and getting angry only adds to your stress and makes you feel worse.
You only get more negative thoughts. It is essential to yourself that you learn to stop thinking negatively.
If you have visited my blog before, you know that I am an advocate of mental self-analysis.
If you visit my blog for the first time, I will explain what this means. Mental self-analysis is to get to know yourself better.
The positive things about you but also your pitfalls.
In this case, it means that you have to write down the negative situation you are in, but also write down your emotions such as anger and fear.
In this way, you gain insight into your feelings, which hinders you from accepting the changes and not resist them.
Describes the situation in which you find yourself
First, I advise you to buy a separate notebook for yourself. If you prefer to do it with a bullet journal, that is, of course, also possible.
It is your personal preference, which counts.
The most important thing is that it is your notebook that you use for this personal development because you also want to be able to see your changes.
Be the first to describe the change you are struggling with for yourself. Use your own words. It doesn’t have to be a beautiful story.
Try to write down your emotions such as anger, fear or even anger.
It doesn’t matter how.
Throw out your feelings in writing. Nobody has to read this. It is entirely your own story and passion.
It often happens that your tears suddenly run free.
Just let this happen. It is okay if your emotions come up as you write.
The purpose of writing down your own experience is that you can throw out everything you sometimes don’t do with other people.
You bottle it up. It is your personal story and your own pent-up emotions.
Above all, be honest with yourself when you write. Don’t worry, write down what you feel.
Some people find it strange to write, but I can assure you that it helps.
I challenge you to do this. Sometimes it is not possible to write down your whole story at once because it evokes too many emotions.
This does not matter. Just continue with it the next day until you complete the entire story for yourself.
Release the tension and give the changes a chance
Now that you have written down your whole story, you know all the emotions that play a role in this change.
You know which emotions resist you from these changes.
You recognize all negative emotions and the tension in your body.
You should have thrown everything out on paper.
Now it is crucial to get this tension out of your body.
You can do this by looking for outdoor activities and taking a pleasant walk, but of course also by exercising or cycling.
A way to learn well to relax your muscles and your head are, for example, mindfulness, yoga or meditation (if you have never done this, you can use guided meditation).
If you have a hobby where you always got a lot of relaxation, it’s time to get yourself to do this again.
In short, your body and mind rest together.
It will not always immediately succeed in finding relaxation, but the most important thing is that you try it in any case.
You can’t get any further by sitting on the couch alone, kneeling or lying in your bed.
Become aware of what you have
Become aware of what you have and what you are grateful for. Every time you worry about the situation, ask yourself these two questions:
Do these thoughts help me feel better?
Do these thoughts help me change the situation?
Your answer will often or always be a resounding “no.”
Just asking these two questions will make you aware that you will not change the situation with negative feelings.
That way, you teach yourself that it makes no sense to resist.
You only have yourself with it if you stick around and don’t embrace the change no matter how difficult it can be at times.
If you have negative feelings or fear, it is compelling to ask these two questions to yourself and write them down in your notebook.
Try to find a solution to how you can feel better. Also, consider a positive thought list.
You can read how to make these in the article: Negative thoughts?
Make a positive thought list. It’s a trick to change your mindset.
If you want to know more about how you can change your mindset, I have a book recommended for you so that you can delve even more into your mindset.
It also teaches you to make changes in your life.
Changes also offer opportunities
If you know through self-analysis where your fear of change comes from, you also learn that you should not resist change.
You don’t have to be afraid of change. It often also offers new opportunities.
New situations keep you growing. It is up to you whether you take a positive view or that you stick with negative behaviour.
You will only learn to grow and grow by developing yourself. On this website, you will find various articles that can teach you to be stronger in your shoes.
For example, you can learn to gain confidence, or maybe you should learn to stop worrying.
Change starts with you
Remember that change begins with yourself. This also applies to how you deal with changes.
I hope you get started with these tips to learn how to deal with changes.
What do you find challenging about changes?
Of course, I like to hear what you find challenging about changes.
Have you already started not to resist but to see opportunities in a change in your life?
Or have you made modifications to your goals more visible?
Let me know in a comment.