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How successful you are, no matter what you do: Find out these 6 rules

Achieving success we all long for it, but most of us have very different ideas about what it means to live a successful life.




Achieving success we all long for it, but most of us have very different ideas about what it means to live a successful life. For these strategies, however, it makes absolutely no difference whether you have a sporting, professional or personal goal in mind. They all can be transferred to absolutely any situation in life and help you to take the necessary right steps to turn your goals into reality.

Rule # 1: Know your goal.

And I don’t mean that you should have a rough idea of ​​what goal you want to achieve. It’s the same every year: Each new year you set yourself big goals; like “Do more sports”, “Drink less”, “Spend more time with friends and family”, or “start your own business”. And why do these goals mostly fail?

“All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible.”Orison Swett Marden

Simply because they are not measurable. What does “do more sport” mean to you? You need to set yourself concrete, specific and measurable goals that can be broken down into sub-goals. An example of this would be: “I want to run a half marathon within a year.” You have first set a concrete goal and second given a time frame for it. In your next step, you can now break down your goal into small, manageable sub-goals. Where do you want to be in a 1, 3, or 6 months to run a half marathon? You can then break these intermediate sub-goals down again until you know exactly what you have to do exactly each week to get there.

Rule # 2: Know your reasons.

Realistically, you don’t just achieve your goals simply because you want to achieve them. What really drives you? Maybe you are not even aware of what really drives you because you have learned to suppress these dreams over the years. It doesn’t matter whether your motivators are socially acceptable or not – as long as they keep you on the road to success, that’s absolutely fine.

“You have to set goals that are almost out of reach. If you set a goal that is attainable without much work or thought, you are stuck with something below your true talent and potential.”Steve Garvey

Some are motivated by status symbols, and for others, it’s the focus on the emotional part to be calm and have a balance. Both are equally acceptable as drivers, so you just need to know how to use them correctly to your advantage.

The REISS profiles

Psychology professor Dr. Steven Reiss did a study work and looked at what drives us from a scientific perspective. He taught motivation and personality at Ohio State University. The result of his years of work is the model of 16 life motives, and the test procedure was named after him “Reiss Profile”.

The 16 life motifs cover the basic needs that live within every person. Reiss is thus opposed to the common concept of intrinsic (inner) and extrinsic (outer) motivation. Those who know their inner motives can be motivated from the outside. That is exactly why it is important to know your own drivers and to live by them. In the test procedure, you can find out which of the 16 motifs are particularly pronounced in you and understand your own personality better on this basis. Motifs are, for example, independence, curiosity or order.

What determines your life? What is really important to you? Success, wealth, career? – or family? What makes you successful? What makes you happy?

Rule # 3: Find your strengths and submit what you are not good at.

Everyone who climbed Mount Everest was not alone and behind every successful personality, there is a whole team of specialists who support them. It is normal for most of us to do certain tasks much better than others or to have more fun doing them. You don’t have to be an all-round genius to be successful. Instead, you need to know yourself well enough to know which tasks you should learn to do better and which one you can do for yourself.

Be honest with yourself: what are you good at? What area do you need help with? Let’s say your plan is to run a half marathon like in the previous example, but you’re having trouble getting yourself up for training. Find a professional trainer or join a group that motivates you and can provide you with a realistic training plan. For every task that presents you with challenges, there are lots of people who can support you to achieve them.

Rule # 4: Give it all you’ve got.

The path to success is not an easy one, otherwise everyone would have founded successful startups or would be an extreme athlete. Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts on the road to success, you have to go through the whole process. If you can enjoy it and celebrate your success on the way there, it will be much easier for you to always give it 100%.

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.

If you sometimes find it difficult to motivate yourself, you can outsmart your brain with a simple trick: once our basic needs have been met, your brain will strive next for the easiest way to release endorphins. Allow yourself small rewards (relax at the weekend with your family, go shopping, the main thing is that you are really happy about it) after each success. Warning – these rewards may only be given if you have actually achieved the goal, not if you are almost there or have given the matter a serious try. If you can’t make it, there’s no reward, period.

Rule # 5: Get motivated by your results.

The route is the goal. Of course, you are aiming for an end goal, but you should also enjoy the process to get there. It is therefore important that you set intermediate goals and that you notice and celebrate every little success. Set weekly and monthly goals. Store them all in one place so you can watch your success over a longer period of time. Your progress may seem small to you every day, but if you compare it with the previous month, 6 months or a year later, you will find out how far you have made it. Keep it up, there is nothing more motivating than seeing that you are already on the road to success!

Rule # 6: Adjust your approach.

Persistence is important and you shouldn’t give up on the first failure. Nevertheless, it is important to have a realistic perspective on your own strategy. If you find in between that your current approach is unsuccessful and just doesn’t work for you, that’s okay. Be flexible enough to adapt and change your strategy so that you can be really successful. And don’t forget: Most successful people have a team around them that motivates and supports them. Either build your own support team or find a personal coach or trainer to help you achieve your goals.

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.”Bill Copeland


If you are currently stuck in the motivation hole, this has one of the following 3 reasons:

  1. You have no goals that could motivate you because you don’t even know who you are and what your life should be like. No goals – no motivation.
  2. You worked too much on the goals of others. You are only there for others all day and when the end of the day, your energy is completely used up.
  3. There is a conflict in your life, for example in your relationship or in your job, which robs you of all energy.

“If you have recognized yourself in one of the points, then you’re in a slump, and you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.” – Dr. Seuss

It’s now about time to take action and start moving forward. Commit to learning these 6 rules so you can use them to pull yourself out of this slump.





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