Bad and negative people? Do they exist? Perhaps you have people around you who are always in a lousy mood and like to spread negative messages. Often such people don’t even notice how much they get on your nerves with their behaviour, or they think that’s just the right thing to do. Whether these people realize it or not, the fact is that they steal your energy.
You should definitely avoid such annoying people because they paralyze your positive mood, create a bad atmosphere and keep you from getting ahead in life. Ultimately, such as “poison sprayers” only cause stress.
Do you find this term too harsh? At first glance, perhaps, but research at the Friedrich Schiller University in Germany has shown that bad and negative people have the same effect on our brain as pure poison. Your mind will try to defend itself against the negative, and a real defence battle with chemical reactions will begin in your body.
Besides, further studies have shown that permanent negative influences cause permanent damage to the brain and thus cloud your mind. In the worst case, you will suffer from depression just because people around you are continually bringing negative things to you.
A real poison sprayer causes negative emotions in you. In many cases, this can happen as soon as you talk to them or just see them. As a result, not only your mood suffers but also your performance. The best solution is to identify such poisonous sprayers as quickly as possible and to keep your distance so that they do not even have the opportunity to get to you and drag you into their negative spiral.
But how can you recognize bad and negative people?
This is not difficult, because bad and negative people appear in different versions, as you can identify for yourself in this article. With the different types, sooner or later, you will surely remember people in your environment to whom these descriptions apply precisely.
Type 1: The blasphemous mouth
You probably know people who often and gladly gossip about other people. This can happen in your circle of friends as well as in sports or at work. A real blasphemer enjoys seeing how other people have failures or misfortunes – in short: a blasphemer is happy about other people’s failures. He’s only too happy to make fun of it.
It is undoubtedly only all too human to occasionally complain about a colleague’s taste in music or not to leave a friend’s last fashionable mistake uncommented. However, if this becomes a habit, distance yourself from such people. Instead, talk about positive things, be happy for successful people and use them as an example. This is guaranteed to do your inner well-being better than dealing with other people’s bad thoughts or failures.
Type 2: The incorrigible choleric
Spirited people are also often referred to as choleric. These are people who barely have themselves or their emotions under control and who keep getting upset about little things. They like to complain about something that simply cannot be changed, such as the weather or the latest tax return, using every trick in the book. Maybe sometimes you get the impression that such people can only be happy when they have found something to get upset about.
“The greatest obstacle to progress is not man’s inherited pugnacity, but his incorrigible tendency to parasitism.” – William Ralph Inge
Such complainant people should be sorted out directly from your environment if this is somehow possible. These people project their negative emotions onto you and spread bad moods throughout their surroundings. If you surround yourself with these people, sooner or later, you too will be infected by this negative mood. Do not take these people as an example, who never look to themselves for a particular situation, but always to other people or circumstances.
Remember that every person is forging their happiness and take this motto to heart instead of surrounding yourself with complainant people.
“I am grateful to so many people that they show me every day how I never want to be.”
Type 3: The constant victim
It is not always easy to recognize the type of victim at first glance. Especially if you are a sensitive person, you will automatically feel sorry for people who tell you about their problems and imagine how bad they are.
You may not know immediately that they are probably exaggerating and getting into their victim role. They like to see themselves as a permanent victim and are always faced with a giant mountain of problems for which they can never do anything themselves. You are shaken by fate and have been chosen as sacrifices for the world from birth. Whether this person is continuously exaggerating or is actually in a precarious situation, you will often only find out over time.
If you have recognized this, however, also sort out the victim type from your immediate environment, because you will rarely be able to expect positive things or joy in life from this person.
Type 4: People who only revolve around themselves
People who are only concerned with themselves and their problems often cannot build good and healthy relationships with other people. This applies to acquaintances and partners as well as friends and colleagues. Perhaps you have already noticed that you feel alone in the presence of these people, even if you spend time together.
Such people are only concerned with themselves, and interest in you is purely superficial. Maybe at the beginning of your friendship, you think that this person is interested in your problems and worries. Unfortunately, this changes very quickly, and you will notice that in the end, it is only about dumping their emotional rubbish with you. Don’t take this personally, however, because this person is just like that. Say goodbye to these people because anything else would just drag you down.
Type 5: The constantly dissatisfied
Is the cup half-full or half-empty? You will not be able to expect a definite answer from people who are never satisfied. Such people cannot enjoy anything, especially not little things. They are never happy with what they have because they always compare themselves to other people who are better off or who enjoy more material wealth. Such people are often literally eaten away by envy.
“The man who is dissatisfied with himself, what can he do?” – Henry David Thoreau
For their supposed poverty, of course, only other people around them are to blame, they believe that they have done everything right. With such people, make yourself aware that it is never too late to take life into your own hands and try new things – regardless of the environment or not. Even if external circumstances do not currently make it possible to fulfill a particular wish or dream, these circumstances will also pass at some point, and what has been missed can be made up for.
In some cases, it is merely the fear of one’s own courage or a change that keeps dissatisfied people from changing their lives for the better. The culprits are not themselves, but those around them. You should also distance yourself from such people if possible because you will not really be able to help them.
Type 6: Manipulative People
Under the guise of friendship, these people try to manipulate other people to get what they want. They are like parasites that suck time and energy out of you. These people know you well and understand what makes you happy, what gives you joy and what you like. They use this information to manipulate you according to their wishes. First of all, they make you feel excellent about being a great person. They give you little things and do things with you that gives you pleasure.
Again and again, they affirm that they don’t want to miss you anymore and that you are one of the most influential people in their life. Ultimately, however, they are only pursuing their goal and will suck you out once they have won over you. Avoid such people by all means, because sooner or later they will only take instead of giving – this also applies to the topic of money.
Type 7: Chronic pessimists
Pessimists are masters when it comes to nagging and seeing things as black. They always have something to complain about. All efforts would make no sense anyway, and you don’t even have to try, it would go wrong anyway, etc. These are typical statements that quickly expose a pessimist. Body language also quickly reveals a pessimist.
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill
People who go through life with the corners of their mouth pulled down and shoulders sagging will automatically put everyone in a bad mood as soon as they walk into a room. Do not forget that the pessimism of such people will rub off on you and your mind as well if you often surround yourself with these types of people. So better avoid them before you end up like them.
Type 8: The judges
Many a person likes to act as a universal judge in their lives. A person of this type comments on things or facts without being asked, mostly negatively, and thus unsettles other people in his environment. Types of judges speak up, especially when a decision has already been made that cannot be easily reversed. These types of people always know everything better afterwards.
It is like things that such people can run off your nerve and lead to uncertainty about your own decisions. The best thing to do is to cross such people off your friend’s list because guys who know everything better afterwards really don’t need anyone.
Type 9: Arrogant guys
Arrogance speaks for insecurity. People who are at peace with themselves do not need arrogant attitudes. Arrogant people, on the other hand, are only time wasters for you.
“There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. ‘Good pride’ represents our dignity and self-respect. ‘Bad pride’ is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance.” – John C. Maxwell
So it’s best to stay away from them and don’t get angry with them, because it’s their strategy to cover up their insecurity.
Type 10: The long-term sick
Perhaps you know one or the other person in your immediate environment who can confidently be called a hypochondriac. He or she has the impression of always suffering from some illness and runs from doctor to doctor – usually looking for a doctor who can confirm his or her self-diagnosis. As a rule, however, the doctor does not do this favour, and if the arm hurt before, then the next time it will be the lungs, the next time the heart, etc.
The list of possible diseases for these people is getting longer and longer, and at some point, the procedures are repeated. Now the arm hurts again, and since the last examination by the doctor was a long time ago, it can’t hurt to have the arm examined again … Such people are exhausting because you can hardly talk to them about anything other than about their (imagined) illnesses and ailments. So it’s best to distance yourself from these guys who just rob you of additional strength and time.
Type 11: The aggressive person
Aggressive people are even worse than spirited ones. They lose their temper very quickly, love to curse and are not very fine in their choice of words. You should distance yourself from such people and do not think you can improve them, because the only thing that will help them is decent therapy.
How can you protect yourself from these eleven types of people?
Sooner or later, the personality types described will drive you insane. Often their behaviour cannot be explained by an outsider and makes no sense. So don’t even try to understand their logic, but distance yourself from them. The less you can understand a person, the easier it will be for you to proceed further: It is best to stay away from such people.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to help them because, firstly, you are probably not a therapist, and secondly, these people don’t want any help at all. So preferably use your energy for things that are good for you.
In some cases, it can be challenging to stay away from these personality types, for example, if they are work colleagues of yours, and you inevitably come across them over and over again. In this case, it is essential that you set clear boundaries for yourself and this person. So articulate your wishes, for example, that you don’t want to hear this or that and stay consistent, especially if the other person doesn’t want to stick to your wishes.
You should choose your private environment very consciously and not let bad and negative people in.
Do what you set out to do and always be true to yourself. You will only get ahead in your life if you surround yourself with people who you can learn from and who is right for you. That way, you, too, can enjoy a happy, healthy, and prosperous life.