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Self-Esteem: How to strengthen your belief in yourself again

You alone determine how you think about yourself, your life and your circumstances.



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This article on how to strengthen your self-esteem was created due to a few questions I was asking myself while I was reading my notes in my journal. I have thought about the following questions: What is self-esteem? What are the components that can affect self-esteem? How can I strengthen and expand my self-esteem?

In the context of this search on self-discovery, I would like to answer these questions here. I would also like to introduce you to a five-stage process on this topic, which you can go through in self-coaching to strengthen your self-esteem further.

What does self-esteem mean?

Self-esteem is a combination of self-understanding, self-love and self-acceptance.

This combination is essentially the measure of how we value and view ourselves – regardless of what others say or do.

So self-esteem is something that does not change quickly or easily when external factors or circumstances change.

Since our self-esteem is constant and fearless, it has the power to change our own lives for the better radically.

What does it mean to have high self-esteem?

High self-esteem embodies:

  • positive opinion about yourself
  • a great appreciation for yourself
  • Wholehearted acceptance of yourself – despite all weaknesses and limitations
  • an unshakable belief in yourself and your abilities
  • a positive outlook on life
  • feeling worthy of the good things in life
  • the conviction that happiness, health, prosperity, success, love, are deserved
  • not to be put off by difficulties, disappointments or other opinions

Our self-esteem lets us recognize our real value – who we are – now and here – right now.

All of these points essentially mean that we can be steadfast no matter what happens. Nothing outside of our personality can affect what we think about ourselves.

Our influence on this fact is the only thing that matters.

You alone determine how you think about yourself, your life and your circumstances.

This part is the essential point from which you can draw your strength.

“It is difficult to make a man unhappy while feeling worthy of himself.” (Abraham Lincoln)

How to build your self-esteem

A high level of self-esteem is undoubted of enormous importance.

But the question remains:

How can we build our self-esteem?

How do we create enough self-worth to shape our daily decisions and actions so that we can achieve our desired results?

I would like to introduce you to a five-step process that supports you in building your self-esteem (further).

It is a process that you have to work on consistently. This process is the only way to build something of real value.

The build-up of self-esteem is not something that you can pull through quickly and then forget.

If you put a single stone on the floor, you would not have built a house.

However, as soon as you put one stone on top of the other over time, your house slowly takes shape. It needs time! Building self-esteem also takes time and patience.

Think of this task as a long-term process

Add a new stone every day. Eventually, your house will become more distinctive and substantial until it is almost impossible to destroy.

It can assert itself in the rain and storm because it is built on a solid foundation. It is the essential point from which your house draws its strength.

The strength of your self-esteem also needs a solid foundation.

Now let’s get into the five-step process of building your self-esteem.

1st stage: The self-image

The first step is to get to know yourself on a deeper level.

Imagine the following scenario: You lose everything due to circumstances. I mean everything.

Your career, your status, all your possessions, your money, your relationship, your social contacts, your achievements – everything that is physical, tangible and visible.

Ask yourself:

  • What if I lost everything in my life?
  • What if I was suddenly on my own?
  • What feelings would I feel?
  • What would be valuable?

This is an exciting scenario. It is a scenario that you have probably never really imagined.

How you think about yourself when everything disappears from your life determines the size of your self-worth.

If you have high self-esteem, nothing will change in your personality. It won’t shake you because you don’t measure your self-worth based on external circumstances. Instead, your value comes from within.

For this reason, it is essential to take the time to think about this last question and answer it honestly:

What would be left, what is valuable?

The more intensively you deal with this question, the more you will find out what you value in yourself and where you derive your true self-esteem.

It comes from your self-image.

No matter how your circumstances are, – it doesn’t affect you internally. This self-image is essential when it comes to building your self-esteem.

Let us delve a little deeper into your true self-worth. Here are some questions that will help you see yourself without masks and inhibitions …

  • Who am I? I am … I am not …
  • How am I?
  • How do others see me?
  • How do others talk about me?
  • What are the key moments that determine who I am today?
  • What brings me the most passion, fulfillment and joy?

The key to understanding your true self-esteem is who you are and how you see yourself.

Of course, it is usually of interest to everyone how others see you and how you talk about them. But it’s not so much about the others.

It’s more about how you see yourself when others talk about you or because others see you differently. This also contributes to self-esteem.

Then some key moments give you the most pleasure, ignite your passion and bring fulfillment.

These are the things that will help you to release your self-worth in the world.

However, this process assumes that you are happy with yourself, stand by yourself and feel good in your skin.

Let us take a look at your weaknesses and the struggles you have with yourself every day. Find answers to the following questions:

  • What am I fighting with most?
  • Where do I want to improve?
  • What are the fears that often hold me back?
  • What habitual feelings hurt me?
  • What mistakes do I repeat often?
  • At what point do I tend to disappoint myself more often?

Accept the fact that we are all humans, and we are imperfect beings. We all have our weaknesses and fight our struggles.

Therefore we should have the courage, to be honest with ourselves and with our self-assessment.

This is the only way we can build high self-esteem over time.

In this way, you can dig deeper into the understanding that you need to move forward through this process successfully.

Now let’s look at your strengths. Answer the following questions for yourself:

  • What skills do I have?
  • What can I do better than 90 percent of the population?

Your strengths help you build your self-confidence. With your strengths, you will further expand your confidence.

However, this is about the forces that you are convinced of. It’s not about the strengths that other people suggest to you.

When you rely on other people to tell you what you are good or bad at, it is not a personal strength that comes from the feeling of your strength.

People also like to change their minds sometimes, and then this power suddenly disappears.

However, this does not have to be the case if you believe in your value. This is the most important thing when it comes to building your self-esteem.

2nd stage: Self Acceptance

By now, you probably have a relatively clear picture of your current self-esteem. You now understand how you perceive yourself and your environment.

There are things in every life that don’t make us proud.

To build real self-esteem, however, it is necessary to deal with ourselves realistically and authentically at all times.

We need the recognition of our true nature, and that includes the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly.

No, we are not perfect. And yes, we make mistakes and have weaknesses, and we always fail miserably.

That is how we are, and that is our real “I.” We are who we are.

Forgive yourself for everything you have done in the past and accept life as it is – unconditionally, without judgments and excuses.

That’s them. Accept yourself by confirming that …

  • You accept the good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly …
  • You accept every part of yourself – including your mistakes, fears, behaviours – that you may not be too proud of
  • You are who you are and make peace with yourself

It is crucial for the further development of your high self-esteem that you fully accept yourself despite all weaknesses and limitations.

You are the way you are. You are lovely, unique, authentic and real. Make a personal commitment that external circumstances or forces cannot define you.

This way, you can finally let go of everything that has held you back all these years.

3rd stage: Self-love

After you have entirely accepted yourself, it is time to give your true self-esteem the necessary appreciation. It is essential to practice and build your self-love.

That means treating yourself with kindness, tolerance, generosity and compassion.

Yes, you have errors. Yes, you have many limitations and weaknesses – but that’s the case with everyone.

It is part of our human nature. However, it is time to let go of all of that and instead be compassionate with yourself.

Compassion comes through self-love. Self-love arises through self-acceptance. Self-acceptance results from our self-image.

We have already gone through these steps in this process.

To practice self-love, have a positive and supportive dialogue with yourself.

Here are some examples:

  • I am valuable because …
  • I’m special because …
  • I love myself with all my heart because …
  • I am a competent personality because …
  • I am a worthy person because …
  • I deserve all the good things in life because …
  • I love my body because …

When you communicate with yourself in this way and tell yourself wonderful stories about yourself, you direct all your attention and focus on your inner beauty on the good in you …

You no longer look at external circumstances and do not need other people to send you confirmation and recognition.

You will find this approval in yourself in the future. This is the most significant step toward healthy self-esteem.

4th stage: The phase of recognition

When you have your self-image and fully accept yourself, when you exercise self-love and compassion for yourself, you no longer define other people, any events and circumstances.

Instead, you begin to identify yourself and continue to build your self-esteem.

It is also helpful to openly acknowledge that you no longer need to please other people.

Other people have their own opinions, their own lives and their perspectives. It doesn’t matter what other people do or say.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

It doesn’t matter what happens in your “outside world” – you alone determine your perspectives and your attitude in life.

That is the only thing you can control.

This is the only way you have the strength to react to the events and circumstances of your life.

You can rely on your internal sources, resources and ingenuity, which reflect your true value and help you to have high self-esteem.

It is, therefore, essential that you know your true value regardless of your income, your status, your career, your possessions, your social rank, your relationship status …

These things no longer measure your real value – it comes instead from your internal sophistication, which you have set for yourself.

That is your real personal source of strength.

5th stage: The phase of responsibility

The fifth and final step in our process includes full responsibility for your life, your circumstances and your problems.

I’m not saying you should go over dead bodies. I say that you have to take full responsibility for everything that happens to you in your life. Only when you take responsibility for your life will you not give up your power.

It means for you to recognize that you have the personal power to influence and change the events and circumstances of your life. Without personal responsibility for your life, there can be no healthy self-esteem.


The moment you build high self-esteem, you will no longer wait for other people to make decisions for you and your life.

You alone are accountable, and only you have the power to make positive changes in your life.

Never forget: without YOU, changes in your life are not possible!

There are no more complaints, accusations, judgments or apologies. You alone have the power.

You have control over your life because you fully trust yourself and your abilities and make decisions that bring you back to the wheel of your lifeboat.

You will no longer be affected by the changing winds. You stay calm and confident. You know who you are.

You fully accept yourself. You love yourself unconditionally and realize that you are the captain of your life ship.

No matter what storms blow up the sea and despite the rumours of the mutiny on the oceans, you stay focused and able to keep the course of your lifeboat.

Correct your path from time to time and take full responsibility for the adventurous journey of your boat.

You have not been troubled by external circumstances. Yes, the world out there is a strange mess, but your inner world can be calm and level-headed.

And that is precisely the difference. In the end, you will lead your lifeboat safely to every port you want to call, and you will succeed because you have taken the time to build your self-esteem.


Are you waiting for success? 6 Principles for Breaking the Waiting Game

Success often comes to those who are persistent, adaptable, and willing to put in the effort to continue moving forward. Waiting passively for success to come isn’t a productive approach. Taking action, staying committed to the journey, and continually striving for improvement are key factors in achieving success.



Are you waiting for success? If you are, it will never arrive. Success is who you are and what you do during each day and night.
It is not a reward or a destination. Success is a way of travelling, tiling and gardening. In my opinion, there are no successful people, only people who enjoy successful moments in time…
We hear about them every single day.

He was in the right place at the right time.
Her timing was perfect.
It was an idea whose time had come.
She knows what she wants and goes after it with a passion.

For the most part, these statements apply to others. Rarely do we direct them toward ourselves. But what if we could say proudly and honestly?

I placed myself in the right place at the right time.
My timing was perfect.
It was my idea whose time had come.
I know what I want, and I am going after it with passion.

So, why not?

I believe the primary reason is that we are out of sync like the spark plug distributor sending the signal to the engine cylinders at the wrong time.
Timing may not be everything in life, but when it comes to success, it’s challenging to think of another single factor that makes or breaks more people’s lives.

Everything ultimately happens at a point in time, and when the convergence of factors in time is positive … success is unavoidable!

Mastering time–not only the minutes and hours of each day but the “times” of one’s life is essential to turning dreams into reality and achieving the goals you set for yourself.

Literature and everyday conversation are both filled with references to the seasons of a person’s life. The seasons are not mere literary devices or metaphors; they are genuine. Life has phases and passages. It has periods delineated by beginnings and endings. Most importantly, these periods come in sequence.

Are you waiting for success? If you are, then follow these 6 principles

Principle 1: View your failures as an opportunity to learn.

Failure is a delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead-end street. Regard it as a short-term phenomenon.

Choose to use failure as the fertilizer of your success. Farmers use decomposed plants, and other substances to fertilize their crops. In much the same way, you can use your failures and disappointments to enrich the soil of your mind for planting the seeds of success.

Some people say that failure should be avoided at all costs. But if you think it through, that cost is too high. The only way to avoid failure at all costs is to do nothing. Although you avoid failure and defeat by doing nothing, you also avoid success and fulfillment.

The way to turn failure into fertilizer is to use your errors and mistakes as a way to learn and then dismiss those errors and mistakes from your mind. Use failures and disappointments only as corrective feedback to get you on target again.

It has been said that failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker.

The board game we all play, Monopoly, was created by Charles Darrow, an unemployed heating engineer. Darrow took his first version of the game to a toy company in 1935. That company initially rejected the game for containing fifty-two fundamental errors. Darrow wasn’t defeated, however. He used that temporary failure to refine his success!

Today, the game is so popular that its maker, Parker Brothers, prints more Monopoly money every year than the amount of real money published annually by the U.S. Bureau of Engraving and Printing.

Only one danger can arise from an adversity mistake the failure as yourself rather than as an event. Contemporary psychologists agree that setbacks and failures mean little in themselves. The meaning of any failure or any success, for that matter, is in how we take it and what we make of it.

Principle 2: Dreams and goals must be charted to be realized.

A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. It is what you would like life to become. A goal is what, specifically, you intend to achieve.

Dreams and goals should be just out of your present reach, but not out of sight. Two great tragedies in life are never to have great dreams and goals for yourself and to have fully reached them so that tomorrow holds no eager anticipation of a challenge.

Many individuals become spectators, resigned to experience success vicariously through others’ accomplishments. They can see success for others, but they can’t imagine it for themselves.

Dreams and goals are the previews of coming attractions in your life.
Several common denominators make the critical difference between those who are successful achievers and those who are part of the vast unsuccessful majority. The following are three of them:

  • Successful people believe in their dreams, even if thoughts are all they have to do.
  • Successful people shape their dreams into specific goals and action plans. They have a sense of direction. They know where they are headed. Furthermore, they project dreams and goals into time.
  • Successful people work on their plans. They exert effort, adapt, and persevere until their goals are reached. They develop the skills needed for planting, replanting, and cultivating until they reap the harvest they desire. They put in the time required.

Your dreams and goals are vital to your success, but they will never yield success until you place them in time.

Perhaps the greatest torture that could be devised would be for us to be forced, in our later years, to watch a continuously repeating videotape of the lives we could have led had we dared to believe in and pursue the dreams and goals that were available and attainable in our lifetimes.

Principle 3: Your purpose in life will determine how you choose to segment and prioritize your time.

Our purpose is the engine that powers our lives. Without it, we toil in a job but never build a career. Without meaning, work becomes a necessary interruption between weekends. Weekends, for many people, are an escape from a weekly prison of purposelessness.

The success of an effort depends not so much on the outcome of the shot but on the motive for making an effort in the first place. The purpose makes the difference.

The most significant companies, the greatest men and women in all walks of life, have achieved their greatness out of a desire to express something within themselves that had to be revealed, a desire to solve a problem using their skills and creativity as best they could.

This is not to say that many of these individuals have not earned a great deal of money and prestige for what they have accomplished. Many have. But the key to their success is to be found in the fact that they were motivated more by providing excellence in a product or service to fill a need than by thinking of profit.

All of your real value and worth is built in by design. You received it as a precious present when God gave you the gift of life. That gift-all of what’s in you—is all the value you’ll ever need. It isn’t a matter of finding value, earning amount, or proving value. It’s a matter of living up to the value built-in at the beginning.

Truly successful individuals look to contribute, not to receive. The employees who love their mission and their work get raises and promotions more often than the employees who care the most about getting the raises and promotions.

Real winners don’t look for achievements that will bring them the most with the least amount of effort. They look for the challenges that will mean the most to overcome. They do not seek rich-quick schemes or lottery jackpots. They look for something difficult -some problems to solve – the accomplishment of which will give them great personal satisfaction.

Many people don’t have the vaguest idea about their purpose in life. They lack a spiritual connection and are not open to looking beyond their mortality for meaning.

For them, I simply offer the idea that they can begin to discover their purpose by learning the most, experiencing the most, and sharing the most value they possibly can with other human beings.

To make life easier for one person every day is to create an excellent start toward a destination that we can never fully reach but will be a process that gives meaning to our existence. There is always another opportunity to learn, to grow, and to extend our reach to someone groping for our strength.

Principle 4: Your sense of responsibility and your integrity keep you concerned with time.

Why are American industries suffering from foreign competition? Why are companies downsizing? Why are future generations likely to enjoy less prosperity than their parents have? Why is the American dream fading? Who is to blame?

The real problem is that everyone is pointing the finger at someone else.

“Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.” – Ralph Marston

The person of integrity does not blame others for his failure or expect others to provide his success. He shoulders his destiny.
If there’s one quality above all others that we humans should value, it is this: personal responsibility. We must take 100 percent of the blame for our choices and actions in life.

Every decision has a corresponding reward or consequence based on the integrity of that choice.

A little quote above my desk guides me through the seasons:

“life is like a field of newly fallen snow, where I choose to walk, every step will show.”

Principle 5: Perseverance maintains you over time

Lack of persistence is the major reason most people fail to attain their goals. Perseverance means doing the tough things first and looking downstream for gratification and rewards.

It means being dedicated to gaining more knowledge and making more progress. It means making more calls, going more miles, establishing more contacts, challenging more of your time-grown assumptions, getting up earlier, and always being on the lookout for a better way of doing what you’re doing.

“Through perseverance, many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.” – Benjamin Disraeli

Perseverance is sticking with it when the odds stack up against you. It is very often taking the road least travelled by your friends and peers. Perseverance is not complaining but sustaining.
Patience is the subtle side of persistence.

Patience cautions us to focus our efforts on what we can change and accept what we cannot. When external circumstances rain on our parade, patience is our umbrella. Instead of blaming what we cannot control, patience gives us pause for reflection so we can dry off and start looking for a new way.

Everything, over time, is either ongoing or off-going. We achieve our goals, we abandon them, or we, hang in there!

You see when a goal is distant and difficult to reach, patience is our ally. Time changes everything, but with patience, we can keep our desires relatively constant. If we can just hang on long enough, we know that time will finally create for us the conditions in which we can succeed.

How does patience relate to the deep desire to find a destiny worthy of ourselves? It is indispensable. No one can attain the fullness of his or her whole life early in life or according to a timetable.

No one can find a destiny worthy of a full life without living that full life conscientiously, passionately, and organically in the natural order in which it comes. When we plant a flower or a tree, we need to have the patience to let it grow and scan with the same is true of ourselves.

As long as we are persistent in the pursuit of our deepest destiny, we will continue to grow. We cannot choose the day or time when we will bloom fully. It will happen in its own time. The secret to success is to live wholeheartedly, honestly, and steadfastly in each, you take as it comes.

Principle 6: Success is SEQUENCED in time.

Almost everything in life can be broken down into phases. Wed that with our lives. Even though we live our lives as a seamless day-to-day flow, we speak about infancy, childhood, teenage years, college days, young adult years, middle age, and golden years as if they were specific stages or phases through which we all go through.

The same holds for the phases of our success management. The seasons of our success are stages, segments, and time frames. The good news is that unlike the seasons of the year or the seasons of your life, you can control the seasons of your success. You make time work for you!

In your success journey, It’s not a matter of being in the right place at the right time nearly as much as it is a matter of taking the time to determine what the right place and time ought to be!

In conclusion, success is not a distant destination to be awaited; it is woven into the fabric of each day and night. It is a continuous journey, shaped by our actions, timing, and perseverance. Success is not reserved for a select few but is accessible to all who dare to embrace it.

To achieve success, we must view failure as an opportunity to learn and grow, chart our dreams into actionable goals, align our purpose with our actions, take personal responsibility, and persist with time. Success is not random; it is sequenced in time, with each phase requiring deliberate effort and timing.

As we navigate through the seasons of our success, let us remember that success is not merely about being in the right place at the right time; it is about taking the time to define and create our opportunities. So, why not seize the moment, cultivate our dreams, and embark on the journey to our version of success? After all, the time for success is now.



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Building Self-confidence: Discover the 7 keys to improve it

Self-confidence is a crucial aspect of our relationship with ourselves.

However, we are all aware that numerous factors can influence our self-confidence: past negative experiences, failures, critical feedback, or longstanding “labels” that have been placed upon us. In reality, self-confidence is not a fixed trait that one either possesses or lacks; rather, it is a dynamic quality that fluctuates over time. It’s perfectly normal for everyone to experience moments of low self-confidence.



Addressing and enhancing self-confidence is becoming increasingly vital in a world where demands and expectations continue to rise. Self-confidence plays a pivotal role in achieving success and maintaining overall well-being. When self-confidence is lacking, it can lead to emotional distress and impact how we carry ourselves and how others perceive and interact with us.

Practical Steps to Building Self-Confidence

To counteract this destructive dynamic, here are foundational and practical steps to enhance your self-confidence, boost your self-esteem, and cultivate a positive self-image that works in your favor.

1. Evaluating Your Options with a clear mind.

By adopting a perspective that distances you from your own actions and viewing them as an external observer, you gain the ability to act and view them as an external observer. You can identify situations and habits where you may be self-sabotaging.

This self-analysis is a potent tool that empowers you to take control of your self-image and can lead to significant personal growth.

If you’ve struggled with low self-esteem for an extended period, Suppose you’ve struggled with low self-esteem for an extended period. In that case, you may have fallen into a cycle of anxiety and hostile self-perception that’s challenging to break without deliberate effort.

Taking a third-person viewpoint lets you see this cycle objectively, making it easier to take constructive action.

Do you know how you can do this? It’s simple. When you encounter something that triggers distress and undermines your self-confidence, pause and consider the various options available to address the situation.

Choose the option you believe will benefit you long-term and support your well-being.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

The key: Challenge Yourself to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone.

To overcome the inclination to remain within your comfort bubble, it’s essential to ensure that your concept of what’s “best” for the long term isn’t solely influenced by a desire for convenience.

If you’re seeking to approach things differently, you must be willing to step outside your comfort zone.

For instance, imagine you receive a lower grade than expected on an academic paper. The easiest choice might be to do nothing, but by requesting a review of the corrections and asking for feedback on your mistakes, you’re likely to gain valuable insights even if confronting your errors feels uncomfortable.

2. Addressing Negative Habits: Taking Action for Change

This detached perspective should not only guide your choices of action but also serve as a method for identifying thoughts that undermine your self-confidence. Developing a positive self-image is not about achieving an entirely objective view of yourself (which is impossible, given the complexity of self-awareness), but rather about cultivating a self-image that serves you well.

The key difference in building a positive self-image lies in selective attention. When you lack self-regard, all the information about yourself and your actions passes through a filter that casts everything in a pessimistic light.

As a result, you may tend to focus closely on what goes wrong while overlooking your accomplishments. Since this bias persists regardless of your efforts, use it to your advantage! Recognizing and challenging unfair thoughts about yourself will help diminish their impact.

Changing your thoughts to work in your favor.

As you see the amount of unrealistic negative thoughts about yourself, you will become more aware of your ability to actively participate in building adequate levels of self-confidence, because you will realize that what you knew about yourself was skewed by your mood.

You can also turn things around by fighting back with positive thoughts and paying more attention to the things that speak well about you. This will not only change your perception of your personality, but will also make you act differently and, as a final effect, will improve your levels of self-confidence.

3. Stop always comparing yourself to the same people

You should stop comparing yourself to other people. If you can’t help but compare yourself, it’s because you probably don’t know them well enough. Nowadays social networks and the media make it very easy for specific people to offer only their best side and keep many other things under lock and key. And all this, with or without a paid image consultant.

The importance of feeling comfortable with yourself

Recognizing the importance of feeling comfortable with yourself involves reflecting on everyday behaviors, such as carefully selecting photos for virtual profiles or choosing words with precision. While you may invest time and effort into curating your online presence, it’s likely that those following your updates are even more invested in presenting you as a captivating individual.

Therefore, part of building self-confidence includes transitioning from idealizing others to humanizing them, acknowledging their imperfections and the gaps in our knowledge about them.

It’s essential to acknowledge how our thought processes can be influenced by selective attention, which is often amplified by mass media and the internet, limiting our exposure to certain information. This awareness leads us to an important realization.

4. Recognize the effects that propaganda has on your self-esteem

Self-confidence and self-esteem are closely related, and that is why you should pay attention to both if you want to intervene on your possibilities to change your attitude and emotional style. However, there are very powerful propaganda and advertising devices that are almost exclusively in charge of offering niche markets to large organizations by creating insecurities for people.

If you are a woman, for example, you may have realized that there is great media pressure to pressure women with the ideal of feminine beauty, something that ultimately does not exist. Something similar happens with practically all the elements of our life: architecture, cars, the personalities of movie heroes, etc.

Detoxify the ideals of film and television

Realizing that self-esteem, be it positive or negative, is something that can be learned and unlearned and influenced by media and cultural elements serves to see that a negative self-image does not reflect our own nature. Therefore, considering the social pressures that influence us is imperative to preserve the authenticity and not let the publicity sink us emotionally.

5. Ensuring good health can play a significant role in boosting self-confidence.

While self-confidence is subjective, making small, practical changes in your lifestyle can positively impact it. Developing habits like regular exercise, proper nutrition, and maintaining good hygiene are achievable steps that offer numerous benefits. These healthy practices not only contribute to physical well-being but also indirectly enhance self-esteem.

Remember, a men’s healthy body supports a healthy mind, fostering a positive self-image and overall well-being.

When our body works better, it is noticed by everyone (and also by oneself). There are multiple studies that link physical to mental well- being, so you shouldn’t underestimate this point.

6. Sleep well

Not only because of what has already been said in the previous point but because it is totally essential. Not sleeping properly produces fatigue and stress, which affects our way of interpreting things and, of course, also has an effect on the postures we adopt. It’s hard to trust yourself when you walk around with your head down all day.

7. Face realistic challenges and meet them

If you want to work on your self-confidence, you should focus your actions on thinking about the impact they will have on your self-esteem. Somehow, you must leave messages to your future self so that it is the one who reads itself with kinder eyes (in part, that is what the first point explains).

The art of setting ambitious but affordable goals

Therefore, you should see what goals or objectives, far from being useful, do nothing but damage your self-image by being unrealistic. If you want to make progress in this regard, focus on the objectives that you can tackle and launch yourself at them, without leaving it for the next day.

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The Extraordinary Legacy: 8 best life lessons from Forrest Gump

Best Life Lessons from the story of Forrest, a young man with an intellectual disability who becomes the protagonist of some of the most important events in the history of the United States.



We remember the best life lessons from Forrest Gump and memorable moments of the movie starring Tom Hanks.

If things don’t go your way, if you don’t know what to do to feel better, we suggest this classic, an inexhaustible source of strength and optimism.

When something is extraordinary, it leaves a mark forever. This is the case with Forrest Gump, who received, in general terms, the approval of the critics and the audience. Between drama and comedy, this 1994 film managed to captivate the viewer due to the sensitivity and honesty of its protagonist.

He was a man facing challenges due to his intellectual disability; Forrest’s indomitable spirit leaves an indelible mark on those around him and the world at large. Its central message is that it does not go out of style despite the years; it is about getting ahead despite adversities, and that love, friendship, and honesty are the pillars of everything.

As we revisit this classic, we uncover meaningful phrases and insights that resonate deeply with our own experiences, offering guidance and inspiration in navigating life’s complexities with courage and authenticity. The best life lessons we can learn from “Forrest Gump” revolve around resilience, optimism, and the transformative impact of love, friendship, and honesty.

Here, we share the best life lessons and the ones that motivate us the most.

1- “I suppose sometimes there are not enough stones.”

The scene in the movie of Jenny throwing stones at her father’s old house is one of the most mythical in the film and hides a harsh truth:

She lived a difficult childhood and adolescence due to the abuse of her father, something that marked her for life.

The search for freedom led her to go through different stages, some of which were self-destructive, but each of her movements came derived from that past that, for her, weighed like a slab and was impossible to forget.

The past sometimes weighs too much, and we do not have all the resources to get rid of it, so the only thing we have left is to learn to live with the memory.

2- “A promise is a promise.”

Is it apparent, right? However, more than one should be reminded often. A person’s word says a lot about who he is, has been and will be, and we value him less and less.
It seems evident that promises are made to keep them, but this is not always the case.

The value of a person’s word seems to lose importance over the years. But what we say and do in correspondence with the promises we make, mean a lot about how and who we are.

“Forrest always kept all his promises”

The good guy from Forrest showed us, both actively and passively, that when you give your word to someone else, you have to go to the end and fulfill what was promised.

In fact, throughout the film, he made more than one promise, both to his friends and to the love of his life, fulfilling each of his words no matter what he had to do for it.

3- “When I was sleepy, I slept. When I was hungry, I ate. When I should… you know, I was going”

Forrest started running and spent three years doing it simply because he wanted to. Although it is difficult for us to see it, life is that simple.

You just have to do what you want when you want and what you should when you should look for no other reason than to move on.

It seems evident that we should all do what we want and when we want, but this is not always the case.

We live conditioned, above all, by what is established in society, that is, we let ourselves be carried away by the current that says that we have to buy a house, a car, get married, have children and start a family although not everyone wants that future.

Forrest put aside all those prejudices and managed to do epic things, regardless of what people expected of him.

He was running simply because he wanted to because at that moment it was what he wanted and nobody was going to stop him.

Maybe we should all be resilient and do like Forrest and spend a little more time on those things that make us happy.

4- “Do the best you can with what God has given you.”

Leaving aside religious beliefs, the essence of this phrase is what is essential. For one reason or another, each one has certain conditions, and the only thing we can do is decide what to do with them.

Each of us is born with a series of virtues and defects that make us special. We are not always able to see each of our possibilities because we tend to focus on the most negative aspects, but ‘Forrest Gump’ taught us the importance of taking advantage of both, taking advantage of those defects that actually make us unique instead of regret for them.

One of the mythical scenes of the film and that demonstrate that in life you have to try everything to know how far we can go, is the one in which a Forrest in the middle of childhood launches himself to the cry of

” Run, Forrest Run! “

freeing himself from the prosthetics of his legs that forced him to walk in a strange way and realizing that he could run and had a lot of potentials.


5- “The truth, although I was always running, I never thought that would take me anywhere.”

We live in a society where speed prevails. The day to day is a constant coming and going for many people, a way of life in which we are always accelerated.

We have become accustomed to running everywhere and having almost no time to breathe and, perhaps, we should take Forrest as a reference, who spent a season running to reach a great conclusion:

“The truth, although I was always running, I never thought that would get me anywhere. “ – Forrest Gump

That plot of history is a metaphor for life that is still valid today, showing that, although we live running, most of the time, we are not going anywhere.

Best of all, Forrest managed to become a benchmark, a source of inspiration for many who wanted to follow him on his odyssey by running across the country.

He ran, but it is still a metaphor for the world we live in, in which everything goes excessively fast.

We have gotten used to going soon, and, as Forrest says, most of the time, we are not going anywhere.

6- “I don’t know much about almost nothing.”

A sentence that more than one would have to remember and apply. If we were all as smart as we think we would have fixed the world on several occasions.

But the truth is that we know a few things, and accepting it is the only way to continue learning.

“Forrest was much smarter than most thought.” – Forrest Gump 

Most of the people who crossed the Forrest trail thought he was a guy with problems and unable to do some things. Some even considered him a fool.

But Forrest was evident: he felt someone stupid as the one who does silly things, which Gump never did.

Each of his actions had motivation, but above all, he acted out of the humility that characterized him so much.

Unlike many others, who consider that they know everything in this life, Forrest assumed that he did not have absolute knowledge and that he was not an intelligent person. Still, he had other more important values, such as knowing what love is.

Likewise, Forrest had a great sense of loyalty, like the one he showed with Bubba during his time in the Vietnam War, fulfilling his friend’s dream when he died.

7- “Mom says that life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what will happen to you.”

One of the best known to all is the one that said:

“Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get”

This quote resonates deeply with the unpredictability of life and its best lessons. At first glance, it may seem simplistic, but upon deeper reflection, it reveals a profound truth.

Just like assorted chocolates in a box, life presents us with unexpected surprises and its best lessons. Some experiences are delightful and fulfilling, while others may disappoint or challenge us. Much like tasting chocolates, we encounter moments of sweetness, richness, and sometimes bitterness.

Forrest’s mother plays a pivotal role in shaping his perspective on life through her teachings and sayings. He cherishes the wisdom imparted by his mother, reflecting on her guidance and drawing strength from her words throughout his journey.

Forrest himself verified it in his meats since he had moments of absolute happiness in which joy prevailed. Still, he also lived other more complicated moments in which smiling became something more challenging.

However, Forrest never gave up on anything and always knew how to get ahead, overcoming obstacles such as the problem with his legs, the prejudices of people who crossed his path or the death of loved ones.

8- “I may not be brilliant, but I do know what love is.”

Humility is the key to this phrase. Admit that we don’t know everything, only what’s essential. When his girlfriend Jenny rejects the marriage proposal, he says:

“I am not an intelligent man, but I do know what love is.”

Ever since they were children, Forrest has always been attracted to his neighbour Jenny. He shared many moments with her in his childhood, so he quickly developed feelings.

However, although our protagonist only had eyes for her and lived entirely in love, he received more than one denial from Jenny, an attitude that we never understood, but which was ultimately rooted in the abuse that the woman suffered from her father in childhood.

Despite everything, Forrest finally achieved his purpose and was with Jenny until her last days, getting to start a family.

He understood love as a form of pure expression because when you truly fall in love with someone, nothing else matters more than what you feel for that person, regardless of their appearance, knowledge or skills.

In summary, the extraordinary legacy and 8 best life lessons from”Forrest Gump” offers a treasure trove of of some of the best life lessons and motivational insights that inspire us to live with courage, compassion, and authenticity. By embracing the wisdom imparted by Forrest’s journey, we can navigate life’s complexities with grace and resilience, making a positive impact on ourselves and those around us.

In essence, the extraordinary legacy of “Forrest Gump” encapsulates a treasure trove of profound set of best life lessons and motivational insights that encourage us to embrace courage, compassion, and authenticity. By embracing the wisdom gleaned from Forrest’s journey, we can navigate life’s complexities with grace and resilience, ultimately making a positive impact on ourselves and those around us.

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Mental Health: The 10 key points to achieve better emotional balance

Finding yourself is a priority for emotional balance, and in many cases this requires will. When you change your mind and the way you do things, you change your world.



What is it that makes all of us seek emotional balance?

Each individual is in a constant search of balance, perhaps through a personal growth workshop, in a person or on a trip. Anything we think that can give us a feeling of balance.

The reality is that we are the ones who can give ourselves balance and we only find it within ourselves.

“Life is an invisible vessel, and you are what you throw into it. Throw envy, dissatisfaction, nastiness and anxiety will overflow. Throw kindness, empathy and love, and serenity will overflow”

It is surprising to see how easily we are led to forget the essential things in life. The succession of intense and hectic days leads us inexorably to lose perspective, to drown in routine, seems to live with the autopilot engaged.

However, there are truths that we should never stop repeating to ourselves as if they were a mantra. These are truths that will help us stay focused on our goals and allow us to achieve better emotional balance.

How to achieve better emotional balance, key points

Being busy doesn’t mean being productive.

Just look around. Most people around us seem very busy, moving quickly from place to place, attending meetings and responding to rivers of emails and messages. But are they producing something?

Indeed, productivity and success don’t always come from movement and activity, but rather from concentration and attention. Often our typical day is consumed through dozens of activities that are not important and do not meet our vital goals.

However, since we have the same number of hours available every day and there is absolutely nothing we can do to increase them, we’d better use them wisely. Therefore, make sure that your efforts are paying off and that you use your time not only to keep yourself busy, but to be productive and, above all, to get closer and closer to the goals that matter to you.

Fear is the leading cause of repentance.

Fear is often a silent enemy that creeps into the small crevices and gradually grows within us. It is fear that prevents us from taking the first steps towards realizing our dreams and keeps us tied to a reality that we do not like.

Throughout our lives, we experience three main fears:

  1. The fear of leaving our comfort zone where we feel safe (not happy or satisfied),
  2. The fear of losing the people we love and,
  3. The fear of failure.

These fears are not always clearly expressed; we are often not fully aware that we harbour these fears. However, they become our main obstacle to achieving our dreams, and by the time we reach the end of life, they will have been the leading cause of our regrets. Remember that there is nothing worse than asking, “What would have happened if only I had dared?

You don’t need excuses to forgive

Life flows better when we let go of resentment and forgive. When we harbour a grudge for past wrongs, we are only ruining our present. Hate and anger are like emotional parasites that destroy our happiness and affect our psychological balance.

Negative emotions that arise fueled by resentment generate a great deal of stress, which also has devastating consequences on our health. Therefore, one of the most important lessons we can implement is to forgive.

Remember that you don’t need to get an apology from the person who offended you to forgive them and move on. Because when you feed the grudge, it is you who hurt yourself. Forgiveness does not mean condoning the person’s actions but merely shaking off the role of the victim.

Failures often precede great successes.

You will never experience success until you learn to embrace failure. Mistakes are like steps on the ladder to success. Every time you make a mistake, you are closer to success because at least you have learned which one of the strategies does not work for achieving your goals.

“Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” – Coco Chanel

Always think that the most significant discoveries have often occurred after numerous failures. In fact, after a failure, we feel frustrated, and frustration leads us to think differently, makes us think outside the box and glimpse solutions that we had neglected.

Success doesn’t happen overnight; it requires a lot of patience and the ability to stay motivated along the way.

You are living the life you created yourself.

We are not victims of circumstances. Nobody forced us to make choices that lead us in the opposite direction to our values ​​and aspirations. According to the Butterfly Effect, we are the result of all the small decisions we have made over time.

“Be the owner of your words and responsible for your actions” – The Brilliance

Therefore, the circumstances we are experiencing today we have created in some way ourselves. This means that we need to get rid of the role of the victim and take responsibility for our life because the future depends only on us.

If you are tired and have missed an opportunity, it is likely due to the fear of taking on new risks. Therefore, whenever you decide, remember that no matter how small it is, it is still one step up the ladder of your life.

Self-esteem must be nurtured from within

When the satisfaction we feel for our results depends directly on the comparison with others, we stop being masters of our destiny. When we let others manipulate our self-esteem and emotions, we are handing them over the reins of our life.

“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — Louise L. Hay

While it is true that it is impossible to separate from the reactions and opinions of others, ultimately, it is equally valid that we do not need constant confrontation to confirm our worth. When you feel right about something you have done, don’t let the opinions of others take away this good feeling.

At some point in life, self-esteem is something we need to nurture from within. This means that we must learn to see the judgments of others as mere opinions, not as absolute truths that directly affect our self-esteem.

You are a reflection of the people you relate to

We can’t always choose the people around us, but we can decide who will be part of the closest circle, the people we share our time with. So, make sure you surround yourself with worthwhile people, who are positive and inspiring, who share your worldview, and who are supportive.

If you surround yourself with toxic people, at best, you will end up losing motivation. At worst, you will end up assuming their attitudes. You don’t need to have people around you who make you feel inferior, who convey anxiety, fear and despair. Life is too short for these people to steal your energy and joy of living.

Remember that, like it or not, the people around us end up influencing our worldview, our attitudes and the decisions we make, so it’s essential to surround yourself with people who are role models for us.

Change is inevitable; embrace it.

We love what we know because, in our mind, it is synonymous with stability and security. This is why we usually resist change. But if there is anything specific in life, changes are inevitable, so it is essential to learn to deal with them with as little stress as possible.

“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”John F. Kennedy

In fact, once our attitude changes, we begin to consider changes as opportunities to learn, we are no longer afraid to change, and a new world of possibilities opens up before us, a world we had never considered.

For this reason, continuing to do things the same way over and over and expecting change is crazy. Learn to take advantage of changes and make the most of them. Opening up to uncertainty offers us some of the most important lessons of our life.

Life is unfair; learn to deal with it.

Pretending that life is honest with us is like thinking that a hungry lion won’t eat us just because we are vegetarians. But we often forget this, and we complain that life is too unfair.

But crying over spilled milk is a colossal waste of time and energy. Continually thinking about how things should be is usually a way of hiding in an ideal world that exists only in our mind, while rejecting the real problems we face.

Life is unfair, and sadly, many bad things happen to good people. There is nothing we can do other than offer our help. But to help change something, we must learn to see them as they are, unveiled. Only when we focus on the problem are we able to solve it.

Live in the present, because that’s all you have

We are unable to develop our full potential until we have learned to live in the present. No matter how the guilt has arisen, the past cannot be changed. And no matter what we feel, anxiety won’t help us improve our future. But the point is, you can be happy and productive even with these emotions.

“If you live in fear of the future because of what happened in your past, you’ll end up losing what you have in the present.” – Anonymous

No one can guarantee you there will be a tomorrow, so make the most of the present, because that’s all you have. The past is past, and the future does not exist yet. Remember that worrying is like paying in advance and interested in a debt that we don’t yet know if we will ever incur.

In Summary:

Emotional balance is knowing how to connect with others and with ourselves. It is giving prominence to our emotions and being responsible for our feelings. Our emotional balance is a reflection of who we are and who we say we are. Our emotions belong to us, be they good or bad, they are our faithful lover from birth until we die.

Emotional balance is being in connection with ourselves and with others. Your emotions know how to move you and help you to be present in the present.

As irrational as we tend to be, don’t forget that you are the owner of your emotions and in this game, you are in control. REMEMBER …… life is too short, so live every moment of it and make it worthwhile.


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