Self-motivation is the first step, the drive that leads you to achieve professional or personal success, therefore, it is important to learn some self-motivation techniques, for those moments when your mood is in decline. Just at that moment you must fight against yourself and overcome laziness.
How to make self-motivation a habit
You have probably heard it a thousand times: Success in life has a driving factor: motivation or self-motivation. I know what you’re thinking now: I’ve read thousands of articles about motivation. Nothing helped! This is because initial motivation is not a problem for most of us.
The difficulty lies in staying motivated. And you can do that by turning self-motivation into a habit. To-do lists and affirmations can become a problem if they mean work for you.
“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Rohn
When motivation becomes a habit, you no longer have to think about it, it just happens!
The psychology of motivation: who is in control?
For some people, success is just like that. They seem to jump out of bed in the morning and shine with motivation, while others go through life more like a beaten dog. Why is that like that?
Psychology sees the answer to your questions about self-motivation in the so-called locus of control. A person’s control belief is the degree to which they feel they are in control of their own life and destiny.
There are two different control beliefs: internal and external. This belief is very subconsciously evident in your daily life. Do you often see yourself as a victim, do you take responsibility for what happens to you?
Internal locus of control
People with an internal control belief are firmly convinced that they themselves have control over their lives and that their fate is in their own hands. If you want to change something in your life, you can do it independently and believe in your own success.
“Life is an unfoldment, and the further we travel the more truth we can comprehend.” — Hypatia of Alexandria
If your own business idea goes wrong, the idea was either not good enough or the implementation was incorrect. Instead of blaming external circumstances, a person with an internal control belief is looking for solutions. He could choose to bring a coach or mentor on board and work on his strategy to do better next time.
External locus of control
People with an external control belief assume that external forces control their lives and that their path is already predetermined. For them, changes must come from outside.
If you put a business idea on the wall, external circumstances are to blame. The approach was good enough, but the market wasn’t ready for their idea. They find it difficult to change their strategy and adapt to new circumstances.
What is your control belief?
If you have problems with self-motivation, you are probably suffering from your external control belief.
- Do you often see yourself as a victim or do you work with the circumstances that come to your life?
- Do you see defeats as opportunities to learn something new or as absolute injustice of the universe?
- Are you often frustrated when something goes wrong because you feel like you’ve done your best?
- Are you the smith of your own destiny or do circumstances determine your life?
Your control conviction is a subconscious process that has probably never come to the surface of your consciousness. Fortunately, with a little practice, you can change your inner focus. If you have turned your external control belief into an internal control belief, self-motivation will automatically be much easier for you.
Change your habits, change your control belief
Tip # 1: Positive self-talk
You are the only person who has to hear the voice in your head permanently. Take your time and listen to yourself. What do you get? Do you keep a nagging monologue about how little you feel like doing this? Do you constantly complain about yourself that you are too slow, too stupid or too talented? Stop it immediately!
Motivated people speak positively to themselves, while unmotivated people quickly fall into negative self-talk.
“The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.” ―
How you speak to yourself affects not only how you feel while completing the task, but also how motivated you are to successfully complete it. Procrastinate during a boring tax return? Change your focus: This task makes it possible for you to run a business and you even get money back in the end!
Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively about a situation, turn the thought into something positive.
Replace “It will take forever because I am not good at it” with “I am excited about the opportunity to learn and cannot wait to be rewarded at the end of this task.” Give yourself a reason to do your job.
> How does this task bring me closer to my goals?
> What can I learn in this task?
> What can I feel gratitude for?
(If you can’t find a positive answer for any of these questions, the task should probably not even be on your to-do list at all!) What sounds like a small change makes a huge difference as soon as you use it regularly and become a habit leaves. If you have a positive attitude towards yourself and your tasks, it will be too difficult for you to be unmotivated.
Tip # 2: Your friend dopamine
As soon as your basic needs (eating, sleeping, safety) are satisfied, your brain strives for two things: it wants to avoid pain and feel joy/pleasure. The latter gets it mainly from the happiness hormone dopamine.
Happiness is a complex hormonal cocktail that makes your brain absolutely dependent. You can take advantage of this by teaching your brain how to feel pleasure when it is motivated.
Reward yourself when you have successfully completed a task. Very important, the reward can only be given successfully and completely completed tasks. Your brain will try to trick you, but you have to stay steadfast.
Pick something that you are really looking forward to and that would result in disappointment if you don’t complete the task.
Determine a consequence that will occur if you fail to achieve your goal. You don’t have to set absolutely extreme consequences, but the consequence should be uncomfortable enough that you definitely want to avoid it.
Teach your brain that lack of motivation has consequences. No success, no dopamine.
Don’t leave a back door open. Studies have shown that if you invest in them and fail to achieve them, you are more likely to achieve your goals with financial losses. Set an incentive as self-motivation.
On a small scale, you can experience it yourself in the gym. If you pay more for a personal trainer, you feel more committed to your training than if you go jogging for free.
Tip # 3: Build your network circle.
Surround yourself with motivated people. Your self-motivation will automatically increase. When you are looking for friends/mentors, you surround yourself with their energy, constantly.
If these people are positive and motivated, you will automatically take a more positive attitude towards life. On the other hand, negative, unmotivated people can pull you down and dampen your own motivation.
Choose carefully who you surround yourself with.
Develop a network. Sit down and write down 10 people who could help you in the future. Next to it, write down what you could do for them. It pays to pay a favour in advance and have a network of people you can rely on.
Do yourself a favour every week that you can do for someone else. You will be amazed at how much you get back.
Tip # 4: Make your goals visible
Clearly defined goals are the basis for every success. The trick is not just to define your goals, but to make them visible. How often did you set goals at the start of the year, bury the list in your desk, and then find it back in October without accomplishing anything?
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” —Andrew Carnegie
Your goals should always be visible so that you never lose sight of them. All of your actions should lead there purposefully.
Make it a routine to look at your goals every morning. It doesn’t matter which method you prefer. Integrate it into your meditation, hang it on the mirror as Post Its, or read it to yourself before breakfast.
The main thing is that you start the day full of motivation and remember what you want to achieve.
Train your brain for self-motivation
New studies have shown that it takes 66 days to establish a new habit. Take your time. You may make mistakes, but over time it will become easier to do what leads you to your goals.
If you make motivation a habit, you will never have to think about it again in the future. It’s worth investing the time, I promise!
If you are currently stuck in the motivation hole, it has one of the following 3 reasons:
You have no goals that could motivate you because you don’t even know who you are and what your life should be like. No goals – no motivation.
You worked too hard for others’ goals. You are only there for others all day and at the end of the day, your energy is completely used up.
There is a conflict in your life, for example in your relationship or in your job, which robs you of all energy.